Boyfriend missed our 4th anniversary. I'm I right for the way I feel?

My boyfriend and I would have celebrated our 4th anniversay yesterday but we didn%26#039;t. He came home in the morning (after working 3rd shift) came into the bedroom to tell me the internet wasn%26#039;t working and went to walk out the door but I said %26quot;Happy anniversary to you too%26quot; in a shocked pissed off way because I can%26#039;t believe he didn%26#039;t say it. He said %26quot;happy anniversary%26quot;, no kiss, and walked out the door. After he woke from his morning nap he came out into the living room. I got up off the couch to go take a shower before work but he tried to stop me and say he was sorry. I told him I wanted nothing to do with him and he told me I was acting like a 2 year old. He still has not made up for it: no gift, no card, no flowers, and especially not a sorry. He knows he has hurt me and probably won%26#039;t say he is sorry or even make up for it. I know this because he missed also our 1st, 2nd and 3rd. I spent $350 on him! What should I do and how should I feel?

Boyfriend missed our 4th anniversary. I%26#039;m I right for the way I feel?
You should either accept that anniveraries are not an important event to him, and learn to deal with that, or move on.
Reply:I do kind of think you%26#039;re being a little immature about it. It is a big deal and he shouldn%26#039;t have forgotten, but he may also have had a lot going on at work and not even remembered what day of the week it was (that happens to me a lot). He may be thinking of something nice for you, but if you are all cranky towards him, he might think it%26#039;s pointless to even try to do anything.
Reply:feel how you want to feel. it is ur relationship after all and ur the one who can judge it. just get even by taking something important away from him.
Reply:that does sound like he doesn%26#039;t care about your anniversary that much


but i wouldn%26#039;t get to worked up so much


you should tell him how important it is to you


you can get mad all you want


but dont do something crazy
Reply:%26quot;he tried to stop me and say he was sorry%26quot;





sounds like he%26#039;s sorry. forgive him, he was tired
Reply:#1 Remember some guys don%26#039;t think about stuff like that. I have guy friends I have to remind about their wives b-day, anniversaries etc...


Maybe you should talk together (when you%26#039;re both calm), and tell him how much those days mean to you.


If it keeps up, maybe he is just being insensitive, and you may need to rethink your relationship.
Reply:If he has missed all of the others and this one, then why are you still with him. He should know by now how important it is to you. I would think about finding someone new.
Reply:boo hoo





poor bastard works all night and comes home to you lounging around and all you can think of is yourself!
Reply:You have EVERY right to feel that way! You always do! If he missed EVERY anneversary you goys shared together... Dump him!
Reply:Nobody can tell you how you should feel. You feel hurt and we all know that stinks. If it%26#039;s any consolation, guys just aren%26#039;t good at remembering things like birthdays and anniversaries.


I don%26#039;t know what else to say except I understand how you feel and I don%26#039;t think it%26#039;s worth breaking up with him if the rest of your relationship is good. Keep in mind he just got off working the 3rd shift and he could have had a bad day at work or he was tired.
Reply:if he missed your 1st 2nd and 3rd... then why are you so suprised he missed the 4th? As long as he%26#039;s working all night to take care of you Id say that should be good enough.
Reply:4 months or 4 years?


He%26#039;s a a bit clod either way. But to be fair, he did try to say %26#039;sorry%26#039;, but you did brush him off. That was a bit immature.


Guys often do not put the same importance in anniversaries and holidays that women do. You want a big deal, then some guys need to be reminded a bunch of times before the day arrives. Because to them it is just another space on the calender, and no reflection on you or the relationship.
Reply:As a guy, i wouldn%26#039;t punish him too bad. Take some time and explain to him why it is important to you. Honestly, anniversaries are for women. Ladies get all excited about the EVENT but your man may enjoy his equivalent of your anniversary all through the year. I read somewhere that women have a sacred relationship with time. You measure it, you celebrate, you anticipate you gauge how well things are going based on time and your buyfriend may just be enjoying each day as it comes. I have been in situations like that and I had to explain to my girlfriend at the time that while I loved her very much celebrating these days do not mean as much to me as it meant to her. I said that I have the SAME FEELING she had but I expressed it differently. The day means nothing, the celebration is the important thing and why let the day hold you to celebrating it then.





You may have felt like he was being rude but maybe he had something on his mind. maybe he is tired of celebrating things and he was dreading it. He did not want to say so but guys honestly feel that way. The anniversary of your first kiss, the anniversary of your first dance together, valentines, your birthday, sweetest day, new years, going out to dinner on the anniversary of your first date. Guys can get burned out on celebrating the past. We like looking to the future. Give him a break but when things calm down, gently explain to him why it is important to you and he may react more favorably.



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